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Written by Timothy

How To Have A Godly Marriage

Let us discuss how to have a godly marriage.

In short, if you desire a godly marriage stop focusing in on the marriage and only seek the Living God.

A godly marriage by definition means that the Living God fills and enpowers the marriage.

Here are the points to a godly marriage.

Number 1: Throw away the marriage books and stop going to marriage counselling.

But the righteousness that is by faith says: Do not say in your heart, ‘Who will ascend into heaven?’ (Romans 10:6)

Number 2: If married, live as though you are not marriage.

From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none. (1 Corinthians 7:29)

Number 3: Enter the prayer closet to be disciplined and encouraged by the hand of God.

Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God–this is your spiritual act of worship. (Romans 12:1)

Number 4: Pick-up your cross, deny yourself and hate your own life.

The man who loves his life will lose it, while the man who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life. (John 12:25)

As each partner surrenders sinful self God will be able to flow His selfless love through the both of you in the marriage.

Without trying or striving the new creation in Jesus will be able to love their spouse.

The fruit of which will be a married couple in love as God works and wills His love each surrendered day.

The righteousness in such a godly marriage will be a holiness that only Jesus can give.

A righteousness not based on man’s religious principles, but upon God’s holy power.

This is the only kind of marriage that has divine power and is truly a godly marriage.
His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. (2 Peter 1:3)

In order to have divine power through Jesus flowing in a godly marriage each partner must not seek to please the other.

A man is wordly if he becomes concerned on how to please his wife.

A wife is worldly when she is concerned with pleasing her husband.

What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none for this world in its present form is passing away. I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs–how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world–how he can please his wife– and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world–how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:29-35

While this is the offensive message of the cross it is very reasonable.

In a godly marriage each partner strives to love God 100%.

As the Good Book declares: To love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul and all your strength.

When something is loved a 100% there is no room for anything else.

In a godly marriage there is no room for our worldly love towards husband or wife.

As both partners humbly empty themselves of sin and self loving only the Lord, God is able to fill them with His holy love.

This holy love from God is then worked and willed as the Holy Spirit leds and directs.

Strive then to only love God and He will direct His holy love in your marriage.

Then and only then you will honestly have a godly marriage.

Let each partner in a marriage be unconcerned about the marriage letting God take care of the marriage.

The result will be the good fruit of a godly marriage that God keeps healthy and alive.

A marriage blessed with God’s divine love is a thing of beauty to behold but as Jesus said it is best to sit down and think about the cost before asking God to give you a godly marriage.

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